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I am for Dowry....
Yes...I am for dowry...But, if you think me as a fundamental, I declare I don't want to be. There are times where the dowry is the right option to choose from. Did you believe? Yes it is! Most of the middle class Indian homes might have a son and daughter. Mostly the daughter is the one who gets married first. The daughters will mostly never get the property of their father. House or land owned by their parents goes to the son. In those cases, parents are obliged to give Dowry and the girls has the right to ask for compensation (In its social form it becomes dowry). It's indirectly a compensation only. As sum of dowry might be very less compared with the property to be inherited by the son. Because of the unequal sharing of property only, still the dowry exists in society.
I am against Dowry...
Dowry is a social evil. It is the symbol of injustice in society. In reality, dowry brings more evil than it ought to be. Poor parents are the most sufferers. And greedy bridegrooms exploit their wives. It is the symbol of female oppression and it is the one that kills a lots of married indian women and abuses them whether their parents or rich or not. If you have a relative who suffered because of dowry then you might spit at me when you read the "I am for Dowry" paragraph.
How to abolish Dowry practically (My solution)...
Yes you can abolish it by strictly by forcing the existing laws then all of the population will be in jail. So it is not practical. The concept of Inter caste love marriages or dating marriages of western type will prevent this, but our soceity is not at all culturally matured to that level. We are backward as a ditch.
My solution: So Dowry can be abolished by strictly pushing a "new" law, which says that inherited property should be shared equally with male and female children.
And for self-earned property, it should be brought to some kind of legal arrangement whenever a children is ready for marriage. I mean, the 'will' should be written before the death and also with consent/not consent of children. The 'will' should be ready with the horoscope. (Horoscope is another evil which I will deal it later.) This might be the practical way to abolish dowry. Because dowry is all about sharing or exploiting money....
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